Maybe it's because I'm turning 35 and my son is at the prime age of 2 where we decide whether to have another one. I cannot tell you how much I struggle with this question. I've always known I wanted to be a mom but to how many is unknown. I grew up as an only child and understand the challenges that come with that. It's tough because I know that what I feel now is not what I may feel ten years from now. I feel that the pressure is on. Finances, the loss of me time, and the impact on marriage are key. On the days I side with keeping it to one child, I feel like I'm being selfish. On the days, I consider having two, I don't feel confident. But I'm also the same person that is deeply touched by a sibling's speech at their brother or sister's wedding. With me as an only child and J as sibling to three brothers, the conversation can be quite complex.
As I contemplate each day, I'm discovering interesting perspectives that resonate with me.
Forum on Berkeley Parent's Network: One Child
Why Siblings are Important
Is One Child Enough
If you'd like to share your view on siblings or how you made the decision, please do.